24/7
ProtocolPower exchangeaka: full-time dynamic
A relationship where agreed rules, rituals, or authority apply continuously—inside and outside of scenes.
Safety: Define scope, off-switches, and check-ins. Even long-term dynamics still rely on reversible consent.
Related: D/s, Limits, Contract
ABDL (Adult Baby/Diaper Lover)
Roleplayaka: ageplay (ABDL)
Roleplay that centers on infant or caregiver themes or enjoyment of diapers. May or may not include sexual elements.
Safety: Establish boundaries and privacy preferences; consent covers language, outfits, and any exhibition aspects.
Related: DDLG, MDLB
Abrasion
SensationEdge playaka: friction play
Using a textured or rough surface to create friction on the skin for heightened sensitivity.
Safety: Avoid broken skin; sanitize tools; monitor heat buildup and abrasions.
Related: Sensation Play, Temperature Play
Aftercare
SafetyProtocolaka: post-scene care
The intentional cool-down after play: warmth, water, food, cuddling, reassurance, or quiet time to regulate.
Safety: Plan it like any other scene element. Drop can happen hours or days later—schedule follow-ups.
Related: Sub Drop
BDSM
ProtocolPower exchangeaka: kink umbrella
An umbrella for Bondage & Discipline, Dominance & submission, and Sadism & Masochism—consensual adult practices ranging from playful to profound.
Safety: Use SSC, RACK, or PRICK; align on limits and safewords.
Related: Consent, Limits
Bondage
BondageSafetyaka: restraint
Restricting movement with rope, cuffs, straps, tape, or devices; decorative or functional.
Safety: Protect airflow/circulation; keep safety shears; check for numbness or color change.
Related: Rope Bondage, Mummification
Bottom
Protocolaka: receiver
The partner receiving sensation or action in a scene. Not automatically submissive in every context.
Safety: Bottoms use safewords too.
Related: Top, Submissive
Brat / Bratting
RoleplayProtocolaka: bratty sub
Playful dynamic where a sub teases or challenges to invite structure/correction from a consensual ‘brat tamer.’
Safety: Pre-agree boundaries and consequences.
Related: Topping from the Bottom, D/s
Breast / Nipple Torture
SensationImpact playaka: tit torture
Intense stimulation of breasts/nipples via pressure, clamps, impact, temperature, or vibration.
Safety: Limit clamp duration; check circulation; use timers.
Related: Nipple Play, Impact Play
Breast Bondage
RopeBondageaka: chest rope
Tying around/across the chest to compress or frame the breasts.
Safety: Watch breathing/nerve pathways; release if color/sensation changes.
Related: Tit Torture
Breath Control Play
Edge playSafetyaka: breath playaka: air control
Altering airflow or breath sensation as a power-exchange element.
Safety: High risk. Seek formal education; never play alone.
Related: Hoods & Gags
Butt Plug
AnalSensationaka: plug
A tapered toy for anal fullness; options include vibration/decorative bases.
Safety: Use plenty of lube and a flared base; size up gradually; clean thoroughly.
Related: Anal Training
CBT (Cock & Ball Torture)
SensationImpact playaka: genitorture (penis/testes)
Intense sensation to penis/testicles via pressure, impact, or temperature—by agreement.
Safety: Avoid torsion and prolonged numbness; have a stop plan.
Related: Genitorture
Chastity
ChastityPower exchangeaka: orgasm denial devices
Limiting genital access with a device or rules to heighten control and anticipation.
Safety: Measure carefully; practice hygiene; check fit/skin health regularly.
Related: Erotic Sexual Denial
Collared (Status)
ProtocolPower exchangeaka: owned
Status indicating ongoing commitment/ownership within a consensual dynamic.
Safety: Day collars can be discreet for daily wear.
Related: Collaring, D/s
Collaring (Ceremony)
ProtocolPower exchangeaka: collar ceremony
Formal ritual marking commitment and roles—similar to exchanging rings.
Safety: Discuss meaning, duration, and expectations.
Related: Collared, Contract
Consensual Blackmail
Power exchangeEdge playaka: erotic blackmail
A negotiated fantasy where sensitive material is held as leverage within agreed boundaries.
Safety: High psychological risk. Strict limits and easy exit clauses.
Related: Consensual Non-Consent (CNC)
Consensual Non-Consent (CNC)
Edge playPower exchangeaka: blanket consent
Negotiated fantasy where partners act as if consent is pre-given within strict limits.
Safety: Advanced only—use out-of-band safewords/signals and debriefs.
Related: Consent
Consent
SafetyProtocolaka: informed consent
Freely given, reversible, specific, informed agreement to an activity or dynamic.
Safety: Can be withdrawn any time by anyone.
Related: Limits, Safeword / Safesignal
Contract
ProtocolSafetyaka: dynamic agreement
Written/digital agreement outlining roles, limits, health info, and scene types.
Safety: Not a legal override of consent; anyone can renegotiate or stop.
Related: Negotiation, Limits
Contrapolar Stimulation
Sensationaka: hurts so good
A mix of pleasure and pain some find intensely arousing—thud/sting/stretch sensations.
Safety: Scale gradually; track skin response.
Related: Impact Play, Sensation Play
D/s (Dominance/submission)
Power exchangeProtocolaka: power exchange
Psychological authority exchange where one leads and one yields—scene-based or lifestyle.
Safety: Define scope/autonomy outside scenes and aftercare needs.
Related: TPE (Total Power Exchange)
DDLG
RoleplayProtocolaka: Daddy Dom / Little Girl
Nurturing dynamic with caregiver/little roles; may or may not be sexual.
Safety: Agree on language, privacy, and boundaries.
Related: MDLB, ABDL
Dom
ProtocolPower exchangeaka: dominant (any gender)
A person taking the active/leading role in a scene or dynamic.
Safety: Leadership includes risk management and listening.
Related: Top, Dominant
Dominant
ProtocolPower exchangeaka: Dom/Domme
The partner exercising agreed authority or guidance.
Safety: Authority is granted, not seized; consent governs scope and revocation.
Related: Submissive, D/s
Domme
ProtocolPower exchangeaka: FemDom
A woman or femme-identified dominant.
Safety: Same consent and negotiation standards apply.
Related: Dominant, Dom
Domspace
ProtocolSafetyaka: top space
Focused, euphoric headspace some dominants experience during intense scenes.
Safety: Plan aftercare for tops too—drop can affect anyone.
Related: Subspace, Sub Drop
Dungeon
Protocolaka: play space
Venue equipped for scenes—often with rules, monitors, and designated areas.
Safety: Follow house rules and equipment guidance.
Related: Play Party, DM
Dungeon Monitor (DM)
ProtocolSafetyaka: floor monitor
Trained volunteer who upholds rules and safety at events or dungeons.
Safety: May pause scenes for safety; can assist with basics like water.
Related: Dungeon, Play Party
Edge Play
Edge playSafetyaka: higher-risk play
Activities with elevated physical or psychological risk (varies by person and skill).
Safety: Training, protective gear, and abort plans are essential.
Related: Breath Control Play, Needle Play, Knife Play
Enema Play
MedicalSensationaka: klismaphilia
Erotic interest in enemas or the sensations involved.
Safety: Hygiene and technique matter; avoid temperature extremes/frequency.
Related: Medical Play
Erotic Humiliation
RoleplayPower exchangeaka: humiliation play
Consensual use of embarrassing language/scenarios/exposure for erotic charge.
Safety: Use red-line words to avoid; plan aftercare for emotional processing.
Related: Consent, Limits
Erotic Sexual Denial
Power exchangeSensationaka: tease & denial
Sustained arousal while delaying release to heighten sensitivity and anticipation.
Safety: Set time limits; check circulation with devices.
Related: Chastity, Ruination
Erotic Spanking
Impact playaka: impact
Striking buttocks or thighs for thuddy/stingy sensation and arousal.
Safety: Warm up; avoid tailbone/kidneys; communicate intensity scales.
Related: Impact Play, Paddling
Figging
SensationEdge playaka: ginger play
Using peeled ginger to create a warming, spicy sensation anally (sometimes vaginally).
Safety: Patch test first; stop with burning/irritation; not for urethral play.
Related: Temperature Play, Sensation Play
Financial Domination (Findom)
Power exchangeRoleplayaka: money slaveaka: paypig
Consensual exchange where tribute/gifts express control and service.
Safety: Protect privacy and finances; agree caps/cadence/exit criteria.
Related: D/s, Consent
Fisting
AnalEdge playaka: hand play
Gradual insertion of a hand into vagina or rectum using extensive lube and care.
Safety: Warm up; compatible lube; short nails; stop at pain.
Related: Anal Training
Forced Orgasm
Power exchangeSensationaka: machine orgasmaka: continuous orgasm
Giver controls stimulation to bring receiver to orgasm, sometimes repeatedly.
Safety: Agree pause/stop signals; avoid overstimulation injuries.
Related: Erotic Sexual Denial, Ruination
Free Use
Power exchangeEdge playaka: use anytime dynamic
Negotiated fantasy where a dominant can initiate intimacy within pre-defined windows/contexts.
Safety: Hard stops and daily opt-out signals keep this ethical.
Related: Consensual Non-Consent (CNC)
Genitorture
SensationEdge playaka: genital torture
Intense stimulation of genitals for erotic effect; pressure/impact/temperature.
Safety: Know anatomy; watch circulation/nerve response; stop with numbness.
Related: CBT, Vulva/Vaginal Torture
Golden Showers
RoleplaySensationaka: watersports
Consensual urination on or by a partner as part of erotic play.
Safety: Discuss hygiene, locations, privacy; mind surfaces & cleanup.
Related: Erotic Humiliation
Good Pain vs. Bad Pain
SafetyProtocolaka: pain scale
Good pain feels intense yet welcome (thud, sting, stretch). Bad pain signals risk (sharp, burning, joint pain).
Safety: Stop with bad pain. Use 1–10 scales and check-ins to calibrate.
Related: Consent, Safeword / Safesignal
Gorean Lifestyle
RoleplayPower exchangeaka: Gor
Roleplay culture inspired by Gor novels, typically with strict protocol and owner/slave themes.
Safety: Fictional inspiration ≠ universal values; consent/autonomy remain paramount.
Related: Master/Slave (M/s)
Gunplay
Edge playSafetyaka: firearms play
Scenes involving real or simulated firearms as fear/control elements.
Safety: Extremely high risk; often prohibited. Training and strict safety culture required.
Related: Edge Play
Handkerchief Code
ProtocolRoleplayaka: hanky code
Color/placement signals that advertise interests/roles, historically in queer cruising culture.
Safety: Signals vary by region; when in doubt, ask first.
Related: Top, Bottom
Hard Limits
SafetyProtocolaka: red lines
Activities a person will not do—non-negotiable.
Safety: Review before scenes; respect without debate.
Related: Soft Limit, Limits
Hogtie
Bondage
Wrists and ankles bound behind the body into a compact position.
Safety: Time-limit strictly; monitor shoulders/breathing; keep shears nearby.
Related: Bondage, Mummification
Impact Play
Impact playSensationaka: spankingaka: striking
Using hands or tools (floggers, paddles, crops, canes) to create rhythmic sensation.
Safety: Avoid kidneys/spine; warm up; debrief afterward.
Related: Flogging, Paddling, Caning, Crop
Inspection
RoleplayProtocolaka: pose & review
Presentation ritual where a submissive is positioned for visual/behavioral inspection.
Safety: Discuss privacy, touching rules, feedback style.
Related: D/s
Kinbaku / Shibari
RopeBondageaka: Japanese rope
Aesthetic rope style using intentional patterns and connection.
Safety: Learn nerve-safe paths; avoid suspension without training and spotters.
Related: Rope Bondage, Suspension
Kinky Sex
Protocolaka: non-vanilla
Broad term for consensual activities outside mainstream sexual scripts.
Safety: Labels help communication, not policing. Your yes/no matters most.
Related: BDSM, WIITWD
Knife Play
Edge playSensationaka: edge play (knives)
Using presence or gentle touch of a blade for fear/sensation scenes; usually without cutting.
Safety: Training required; never near arteries or moving partners.
Related: Edge Play, Sensation Play
Limits
SafetyProtocolaka: boundaries
No-go (hard) and maybe-with-conditions (soft) activities.
Safety: Revisit often; health and mood change limits.
Related: Consent, Negotiation
Masochism
SensationProtocolaka: masochist tendency
Enjoying certain kinds of pain or intensity in erotic context.
Safety: Wanted, scaled, and stoppable.
Related: Sadism, Pain Slut
Masochist
Protocol
A person who enjoys intense sensation or pain in consensual play.
Safety: Preferences vary; calibrate often.
Related: Sadist, Switch
Master/Slave (M/s)
Power exchangeProtocolaka: owner/property
Consensual dynamic centered on service, obedience, and defined authority.
Safety: Include revocation paths and wellness protections.
Related: Collaring, TPE (Total Power Exchange)
MDLB
RoleplayProtocolaka: Mommy Domme/Little Boy
Caregiver/little dynamic with femme caregiver and boyish ‘little’.
Safety: Align language, privacy, and aftercare needs.
Related: DDLG, ABDL
Mummification
BondageEdge playaka: full-body wrap
Immobilizing the body with film, bandage, or tape for restraint and sensory focus.
Safety: Never cover nose/mouth; monitor heat/circulation; keep shears accessible.
Related: Bondage
Munch
ProtocolCommunityaka: vanilla meetup
Casual, clothed meet-up in public to socialize and learn—no play on site.
Safety: Ask about consent culture before hugs/photos.
Related: Dungeon, Play Party
Needle Play
MedicalEdge playaka: play piercing
Temporary surface piercings for sensation or art using sterile technique.
Safety: Sharps hygiene and biohazard disposal are mandatory.
Related: Medical Play
Nose Torture
Edge playBondageaka: nose hooks
Applying tension to the nose for exposure or aesthetic effect.
Safety: Avoid breathing obstruction; sanitize gear.
Related: Hoods, Erotic Humiliation
Pain Play
SensationImpact playaka: intensity play
Any consensual use of controlled pain for erotic effect.
Safety: Use scales/safewords; avoid joints and vital areas.
Related: Impact Play, Masochism
Pain Slut
ProtocolSensationaka: pain enthusiast
Informal term for someone who enjoys higher-intensity sensations.
Safety: Warm up; stay responsive to signals.
Related: Masochist
Pegging
AnalRoleplayaka: strap-on play (anal)
Penetration of a partner’s anus using a strap-on.
Safety: Use plenty of lube, appropriate sizes, slow progression.
Related: Anal Training
Play Party
ProtocolCommunityaka: scene event
Event with designated spaces for scenes, socializing, and changing; follows house rules.
Safety: Consent/cleanliness rules apply; monitors may pause scenes for safety.
Related: Dungeon, DM
Ponyboy / Ponygirl
Roleplayaka: pony play
Roleplay with equine gear—bits, tails, harnesses, prancing.
Safety: Fit gear carefully; avoid airway restriction/joint strain.
Related: Leash, Collar
Post-Orgasm Torture
SensationEdge playaka: oversensitivity play
Stimulation immediately after orgasm when areas are hypersensitive—uncomfortable by design.
Safety: Use clear stop signals; avoid abrasion/overstress.
Related: Forced Orgasm, Erotic Sexual Denial
PRICK
Safetyaka: personal responsibility informed consensual kink
Framework emphasizing personal responsibility and informed consent alongside risk education.
Safety: Great with checklists and timers for periodic check-ins.
Related: RACK, SSC
Pro Dom
ProtocolCommunityaka: professional dominant (male)
Male dominant who offers scene services professionally.
Safety: Vet providers; agree scope and payment ethics.
Related: ProDomme
ProDomme
ProtocolCommunityaka: professional dominatrix
Femme dominant who offers scene services professionally.
Safety: Same vetting and consent standards apply.
Related: Pro Dom
Puppy Play / Pup-Play
Roleplayaka: pet play (puppy)
Playful roleplay with pup gear, training, and handler dynamics.
Safety: Hydration, knee protection, clear hand signals.
Related: Kitten Play, Leash
RACK
Safetyaka: risk-aware consensual kink
Consent framework centered on informed risk-taking.
Safety: Useful for advanced or edge activities where ‘safe’ isn’t absolute.
Related: SSC, PRICK
Rhaphanidosis
Edge playMedicalaka: radish play
Historical term for inserting radish; cautionary entry.
Safety: Not recommended due to irritation/injury risk.
Related: Figging
Rope Bondage
RopeBondageaka: shibari (general)
Binding with rope for restraint, decoration, or connection.
Safety: Learn tension/anatomy; keep safety shears accessible.
Related: Single-Column, Double-Column, Suspension
Ruination
Power exchangeSensationaka: ruined orgasm
Bring to the edge and interrupt climax to heighten frustration/tease.
Safety: Use sparingly to avoid soreness; debrief emotions after.
Related: Erotic Sexual Denial, Forced Orgasm
Sadism
ProtocolSensationaka: sadist tendency
Enjoying the act of giving consensual pain or intensity.
Safety: Pair with feedback and stop tools.
Related: Masochism
Sadist
Protocol
A person who enjoys delivering intense sensation within consent.
Safety: Care and skill are part of ethical sadism.
Related: Masochist
Safeword / Safesignal
SafetyProtocolaka: red/yellow/green
Pre-agreed word or gesture to slow, pause, or stop a scene.
Safety: For gags or silence, use hand items or drop signals; practice them.
Related: Consent, Limits
Scat Play
Edge playRoleplayaka: feces play
Erotic interest involving feces.
Safety: Significant health considerations—most avoid; if discussed, strict hygiene/barriers.
Related: Golden Showers
Scene
Protocolaka: play session
Bounded time/space where a negotiated activity happens—before, during, and aftercare.
Safety: Agree goals, signals, and clean-up before starting.
Related: Aftercare, Negotiation
Sensation Play
Sensationaka: sensory play
Exploring textures, temps, vibration, scratch, pinch, and more for layered sensations.
Safety: Avoid broken skin; temperature shifts should be gradual.
Related: Wax Play, Electro Play, Nipple Play
Service Submission
ProtocolPower exchangeaka: service
Finding fulfillment in providing tasks, care, or etiquette as part of a dynamic.
Safety: Ensure tasks are sustainable and appreciated; schedule off-time.
Related: Protocol, D/s
Slave (Consensual Role)
Power exchangeProtocolaka: property (consensual)
Person who consensually yields broad authority to another within a defined dynamic.
Safety: Ethical M/s includes revocation paths and wellness protections.
Related: Master/Slave (M/s), TPE (Total Power Exchange)
Soft Limit
SafetyProtocolaka: maybe
Activities you’re unsure about or want controlled trials of.
Safety: Short duration; low intensity; easy abort.
Related: Hard Limits, Limits
Squick
Protocolaka: personal ick
Visceral ‘not for me’ reaction without judgment of others who enjoy it.
Safety: Name your squicks in negotiation; avoid surprise reveals.
Related: Limits
SSC (Safe, Sane, Consensual)
Safetyaka: s/s/c
Guideline encouraging rational safety planning and explicit consent.
Safety: A starting point—doesn’t replace skill building.
Related: RACK, PRICK
Sub Drop (and Top Drop)
SafetyProtocolaka: drop
Post-scene crash—low mood or flu-like sensations hours/days later.
Safety: Plan aftercare, hydration, warmth, and follow-up messages.
Related: Aftercare, Subspace, Domspace
Submissive (Sub)
ProtocolPower exchangeaka: s-type
Partner who chooses to yield control within negotiated boundaries.
Safety: Submission is power exercised by choice—opt-out remains.
Related: Bottom, Switch
Subspace
SafetyProtocolaka: floaty headspace
Altered state some receivers experience—time dilation, euphoria, deep focus.
Safety: They may struggle to speak; tops should monitor and check vitals.
Related: Aftercare, Sub Drop
Switch
Protocolaka: vers
Someone who enjoys leading and yielding roles at different times/with different partners.
Safety: Clarify today’s role before starting.
Related: Top, Bottom, D/s
Tit Torture
SensationImpact playaka: nipple torment
Deliberate, intense nipple/breast stimulation (clamps, suction, impact).
Safety: Mind circulation; time-limit clamps; warm the area afterward.
Related: Nipple Play, Breast / Nipple Torture
TNG (The Next Generation)
CommunityProtocolaka: 18–35 groups
Community groups focusing on younger adults entering kink spaces.
Safety: Great for education and mentorship—follow group rules.
Related: Munch
Top
Protocolaka: doer
Partner delivering sensation/action in a scene. Not always the dominant.
Safety: Skill + empathy = better scenes. Tops can drop too.
Related: Bottom, Dom
Topping from the Bottom
Protocolaka: directing the top
When a receiver tries to steer a scene outside the agreed plan (not the same as negotiated bratting).
Safety: Fix with clearer roles or pause to renegotiate.
Related: Brat / Bratting, D/s
TPE (Total Power Exchange)
Power exchangeProtocolaka: authority transfer
Intense dynamic where a dominant holds broad decision authority by consent.
Safety: Build in review checkpoints and wellness exceptions.
Related: Master/Slave (M/s), D/s
Training
Protocolaka: skills development
Short-term or ongoing learning of behaviors, service, or techniques within a dynamic.
Safety: Feedback loops and rest days keep it healthy.
Related: Protocol
Vanilla
Protocolaka: non-kink
Sexual expression that doesn’t use BDSM or fetish elements.
Safety: Useful neutral term—never a slur.
Related: Kinky Sex
Vulva/Vaginal Torture
SensationEdge playaka: pussy torture
Intense stimulation or pressure on vulva or vagina as negotiated.
Safety: Avoid prolonged clamp use; monitor circulation and tissue health.
Related: Nipple Play, Genitorture
Wax Play
SensationTemperatureaka: candle play
Dripping warmed, body-safe wax for waves of heat and texture.
Safety: Use candles designed for skin; test height/temps; protect surfaces.
Related: Temperature Play, Sensation Play
WIITWD
Protocolaka: What It Is That We Do
Broad self-descriptor for alternative sexualities and kink communities.
Safety: Shorthand for the scene; specifics still matter.
Related: BDSM
